Women do not owe you anything. You are not owed a wink at the pink for opening a door for us. It is not a great tragedy for a woman to only see you as a friend. It is not a failing on her part.
We just see you as a friend. And if we’ve said that…
still creeps me the fuck out when i think back to one of my old guy friends, lets call him Aron. that was still in the early days when there wasn’t a word for friendzone, but this guy was your usual dorky nerd quirky guy. he confessed to me via a private MySpace message that he had feelings for me, but I kindly returned the message saying I didn’t feel the same way. later I’m told by my other guy friends (I’m the only female in this group, and all the guys are like brothers to me. they even admit they think it would be weird if any of us dated each other because it’d feel like some sort of weird incest.) that Aron had PRINTED OUT the messages and showed them, which confused the hell out of me, perhaps he was trying to get sympathy out of my friends but of course that didn’t work because they had actually told him to not bother asking me out because they all knew my stance on dating and knew I have no interest in dating.
later on I had formed a crush over a guy (puberty days, you get those random crushes you know?) that I just met and told the guys about, and my friends told me later on while we were all alone that when Aron heard about this, he got this weird serious face and said “soon she’ll forget all bout this guy and come back to me.” come back to me. I was never his to begin with and to be honest hearing about this scared the shit out of me. I’m just lucky that my friends felt the same way and thought what Aron said to be very out of line and creepy, so they said if I needed protection they’d be there for me.
luckily Aron has never gone beyond his feelings to try anything like rape (not like he’d succeed, he’s still the lanky nerd type and I’d easily be able to kick his ass) but I honestly do NOT like being around him by myself. anytime I go back home and hang with the guys, if he’s hanging out with us I tell the others specifically to NOT leave me alone with him. it’s very obvious he still hasn’t gotten over his feelings for me because he’s always putting all of his attention on ME whenever I’m there.
I’m really fortunate to never have gotten the dangerous backlash out of the friendzone and I pray that I never do, but I HAVE gotten the creepy backlash.
Awww ^^^ This is kinda happening to me right now. D: I hope you the best Kris. :)